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“The Relationship Cure” by John M. Gottman and Joan DeClaire is a self-help book that provides practical advice and strategies for improving relationships. The book is based on decades of research and clinical experience by John Gottman and his team at the Gottman Institute.
The book is divided into three parts, each focusing on a different aspect of relationships. Part one is about the building blocks of emotional intelligence, including topics such as emotional awareness, empathy, and emotional regulation. Part two is about improving communication skills, including topics such as active listening, expressing oneself clearly and respectfully, and avoiding communication patterns that can lead to conflict and misunderstandings. Part three is about managing conflict, including topics such as identifying common ground, expressing needs and concerns clearly, and finding creative solutions to problems.
One of the key concepts in the book is the idea of emotional intelligence. Gottman and DeClaire argue that emotional intelligence is the foundation of healthy relationships and that it can be developed and improved over time. They provide practical exercises and techniques for improving emotional intelligence, such as learning to recognize and manage emotions and developing empathy and compassion for others.
The book also emphasizes the importance of effective communication in relationships. Gottman and DeClaire provide practical advice on how to communicate effectively, such as learning to listen actively, expressing oneself clearly and respectfully, and avoiding communication patterns that can lead to conflict and misunderstandings. They also provide strategies for deepening emotional connection, such as expressing appreciation, creating rituals of connection, and building shared meaning.
Another key topic in the book is conflict management. Gottman and DeClaire argue that conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but that it can be managed effectively if couples learn to communicate respectfully and constructively. They provide practical strategies for managing conflict, such as identifying common ground, expressing needs and concerns clearly, and finding creative solutions to problems.
One of the strengths of the book is its practicality. Gottman and DeClaire provide real-life examples and exercises that readers can use to apply the concepts and strategies in their own relationships. The book is also written in a clear and accessible style that is easy to understand and apply in real-life situations.
Overall, “The Relationship Cure” is an excellent resource for anyone looking to improve their relationships, whether romantic or not. The book provides practical advice and strategies that are based on decades of research and clinical experience, and it is written in a clear and accessible style that is easy to understand and apply in real-life situations.
About the Authors –
John M. Gottman is both a research and clinical psychologist with over four decades of experience. He is currently a professor emeritus at the University of Washington. Together with his wife, he is the cofounder of The Gottman Institute, which trains therapists to apply the principles he’s derived from his research. He is the author or coauthor of more than 190 academic papers and 40 books, including The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, a New York Times best seller.
Joan DeClaire is the director of communications at the Kaiser Permanente Washington Health Research Institute. She has three decades of professional experience communicating health and psychology research to the general public. She has previously coauthored two books with John M. Gottman: The Heart of Parenting and Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child.